Two kids tend to make the nights a bit hectic. It was difficult enought to get Joshua to bed (even though he is only two) but now we have added Benjamin who dislikes the prostrate position as much as Joshua did at this age. So we end up spending most of the time passing him back and forth until we get our little 2 month bundle of joy off to dreamland. However, there are some little pleasures that we enjoy together albeit one of us more than the other. I love to watch tv. Some might say (including my wife) a bit too much. I am into the History channel, discovery channel, TLC, ESPN, ESPN 2, National Geographic, etc...I am a tv geek who loves to watch the "learn fascinating tid-bits about history that has no relevance in daily life" stuff. Brenda though has one real tv love outside of her afternoon soaps which she does not get to watch--The Bachelor. That's right, she likes to watch this morally depraved romp through the lives of one man and 25 women. In case you do not know about this show, one man is given the opportunity to date 25 willing women while whittling them down to the final "one" whom he has he option to ask to marry him. It is humorous I will admit to watch these women fall all over themselves over one guy in hopes that they will be the lucky one picked when all is said and done. Don't worry though about the ladies. There has been a spinoff over the last several years called the Bachelorette which gives one woman the opportunity to do the same to 25 men. All in all it seems quite fair.
What I want to focus on though is the public meltdown that one woman had on air due to not being picked as one of the 12 that got to go on to win the Bachelor's heart. Quite honestly this poor woman was in a state of full blown denial. When she had the chance to spend time with him on this first evening she immediately says to him that she is in the reproduction phase of her life. His eyes told the story that he did not embellish on--he was instantly turned off. During one of her voice over moments that each woman has at one point or another during the show she went so far as to say that she was wanting to begin her mothering days because, and I quote, "my eggs are rotting". Now let's just come to an understanding, if my wife would have started off our first date with this same revelation I would probably have gotten a bit nervous as well. I suppose that she is considering her age of 33 to be getting too old to wait much longer. When she was not picked she then went back to him demanding that he tell her why she was not picked. His response was less than satisfactory when he revealed his lack of desire to reproduce at that point with her. Her comment is what shocked me. She said to him in a nutshell that there was no other reason to get married other than for reproduction. I immediately was repelled by this statement as I can find any number reasons why marriage is much, much more than simply a union built for procreation. In her mind she had encountered just one more man that was intimidate by a professional woman (she is an oncologist and he in an ER Physician) who knew what she wanted. All in all it was a humorous affair in that she now hurt her chances to ever find a "mate" with her little outburst on national tv. I have blogged my feelings and theology on marriage already with my first post. I pray that one day this woman finds a deeper sense and understanding of covenant than she currently holds and is able to find happiness in another. Children or no marriage is a gift. Perhaps she will come to understand that one day--hopefully before her eggs have reached their USDA expiration date. Grace and Peace.
6 comments:
As kind as this sounds...maybe it's a good thing she (with rotting eggs) hasn't reproduced. :)
Christy Faron
How weird, after my first date with Lori she sent me a card the next day saying she had a great time and that she was in the reproduction phase of her life. I didn’t know Hallmark made that kind of card. Anyways, I also have a love for the useless information TV has to offer. I used to watch the Travel Channel before it talked about Las Vegas 24/7. Anyways, I can’t believe Brenda watches the Bachelor. I used to think highly of you Brenda.
I still think highly of you, Brenda. Another good show is Grey's Anatomy on Sunday nights.
Your fellow Bachelor watcher,
Christy
I imagine that any discussions of anything "rotting" would probably be a mood killer for a first date. Stephen and I don't watch this show (although I confess to it the first season) we both would like it to be revamped so that there is absolutely NO physical hanly-panky going on, and they go on normal dates. Of course it's easy to fall in love if you're in Paris, or on a hot air balloon or spa, but how about pizza and bowling? Would they find him as alluring and charming while wearing rented shoes?
Yes, back when I was 17, I was ready to start popping out babies. Ben is so hilarious. Really, I can't stop laughing. Anyway, I'm glad you are one who can admit that you love to watch TV. I think we live in a society full of couch potatos, most of which are in denial. I'm not saying this is necessarily good to be a couch potato, but hey at least some of us can admit it. I love The Apprentice (Donald, not Martha.....hey those are my parents! I just relized that!), and The Office.
I guess that's all from me.
:o)
i don't know john, i'm gonna have to play devils advocate on this one. let me start by saying i DO NOT watch the bachelor. however, i'm sure people have reasons for watching it. however shallow and rediculous they are no worse than survivor, or TLC!? dude seriously, what's your problem? tlc? no more fishing for you, we need to focus on more manly stuff, like shooting guns, making explosions, Dixons. this chick is for sure out of it, i want to get married and not have kids, so marriage must be good for more than just droppin' pups!
Post a Comment